Tag 200 - Group dynamics, leaders and elites

In every group movement based on democratic principles, one should maintain awareness for a tendency of some of the founders and their companions to form an elitist, exclusive "head", even if they don't recognize it themselves. They might in some cases develop a dangerous attitude to see themselves as unquestionable. But he only point that proves this attitude right is the even more dangerous tendency of those that immediately jump in  when someone is questioning a statement or even asking for a better understanding of a proposition made by one of this sub-group, pretending an argument just to align again in the next move as if they had been convinced. This is like a defense mechanism following the herd instinct of an individual that can block all healthy dynamics of what a group movement's intention actually was. All elitist structures within groups support this process of stagnation, because individual development , integration and participation is no longer seen as a process of mutual and equal support, but rather as an attempt to align with the understandings and  assertions of the elite group only.

But you find these patterns in all areas of human social life, even between two people. Friends will consolidate just for the sake of feeling more secure in their views as a lobby of two or more. People align to mainstream opinions without even understanding them for the same reasons.

Anyway, insecurity remains, and it should remain to a certain level because otherwise certainty could just become a hardened form of ignorance. Being content with oneself, self-responsible and stable as an individual is essential for being a supportive part of a group, but that does not rule out the ability to maintain an open mind, particularly with regards to the process it takes to get to that point of self-integrity.

                                          

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react emotionally to patterns that I observe as a group dynamic building sub groups of people that I see as superior and therefore judge them and assume that they behave as an elite.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to communicate from a starting point of insecurity when I react emotionally to such a pattern and start an argument just to assure myself of the justification of my point of view, which is in that moment actually self-righteousness.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself not to stop myself within my emotional reaction and to breathe until I am able to approach this point with common sense and articulate what I see with the intention to actually come to an understanding of how and why I see this friction and conflict within myself and the presenting situation.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to rush into an interaction and communication out of an emotional turmoil without understanding and clarity of what I am actually heading to, even if I am aware of a point that I see as important to be communicated but that I need to analyze, deconstruct and understand totally in the first place before communicating it.

I commit myself to whenever I react emotionally to a conversation, a situation, an interaction that I perceive to stop myself within that emotional reaction, to breathe in awareness and to see whether my reaction is actually based on common sense, if my presumptions and understanding can stand the test of my own self honesty and self-understanding, and when I still see a point of discussion I commit myself  to articulate it in a clear and commonsensical way with the self-honest intention to clarify and understand, to learn and to grow.

 

Tag 198 - Process and Life or: Living process

The principles of waking a collective structured process in the face of tasks, duties, jobs and other requirements of everyday life can become a challenge. Here I am working on points of my own experience and resistances, reactions and actual facts where I have to make clear decisions in order to commit myself fully to the principles of what is best for all, to the responsibilities of life, of the group and my self.


Desteni I Process:
http://desteniiprocess.com

Tag 171 - The Desteni of Living - My declaration of Principle

I commit myself to lve by the following priciples, to stand as a living example not only for my children, but for every child in this world and those to come. I will continue this post as a series whereby I step by step walk through the principles with examples from my own personal process of self willed self change.

The following posts related to this one will most likely be in german as this is my mother tongue.
This declaration post is in english language because it has been a group agreement to share this as an equal starting point for all sharing this process and standing by these statements.

1.       Realising and living my utmost potential

2.       Living by the principle of what is best for all – guiding me in thought, word and deed to always in all ways direct problems to the best possible outcome for all

3.       Living by the principle of self honesty – to ensure I am pure in thought, word and deed: that my within and without is equal and one. Who I am within is who I am without and vice-versa

4.       Self Purification through Writing, Self Forgiveness and Self Application – the action of realising I am responsible for my own thoughts, words and deeds, to forgive myself for transgressions and change myself to ensure I take responsibility for who, what and how I am and through this know that I can trust myself to always be honest with me and so others

5.       Living the principle of Self Responsibility – realising only I am responsible for what I accept and allow inside of me, my relationships and my outside world and so with this responsibility: only I have the power and ability to change that which I see is compromising who I am, what I live and how this affects others

6.       Realising that who I am in thought, word and deed affects not only myself – but others as well and so with Self Responsibility in thought, word and deed – I take responsibility for myself and so my relationships to be Self Aware in every moment  and live in such a way that is best for me and so others as well

7.       Living the Principle of Self Awareness – to be aware, to see, to recognize my own thoughts and Mind, to be self honest to the extent where I can take responsibility for when I see my thoughts / Mind is not what is best for me / others and commit to immediately take responsibility and change for myself and so for others

8.       With taking responsibility for myself, becoming aware of myself – take responsibility and become aware of others in my life, to assist and support them as I am assisting and supporting myself – to give as you would like to receive and do the extra bit every day to see where I can contribute to other’s lives and so my own

9.       Living the principle of self trust – as I commit myself to remain constant in my living of self honesty, self responsibility and self awareness, I stand as an unbending trust that I always in all ways know who I am no matter what I face and that in this I know, as proven in the constancy of my living that I will always honour and stand by what is best for all and so best for me

10.    Making Love Visible – through me not accepting/allowing anything less than my utmost potential, I support those in my life to reach their utmost potential, to love them as I have shown love to myself by gifting to me my utmost potential, the best life/living experience and show others as I have shown myself what it means to LIVE

11.    No one can save you, save yourself – the realisation that the tools and principles of Desteni is the guide, but I must walk the path myself. We are here to assist and support each other in this process from Consciousness to Awareness/LIFE and what it means to live – but the process itself, where you are alone with yourself in your own Mind: is walked alone

12.    Not waiting for anything or anyone to take responsibility for me and this world – but that I realise I have created who and how I am in this moment, therefore I have the responsibility to change who and how I am and so the realisation that we as a collective created how and what this world is today and so it is the responsibility of the collective to change how and what this world is today

13.    Honouring the life in each person, animal – everything from the great to the small of earth, that we expand our awareness and responsibility to creating the best possible life for everyone and everything and so ourselves

14.    Relationships as Agreements: individuals coming together using agreements as a platform to one-on-one expand, grow and develop as individuals in life and living to support/assist each other unconditionally to reach their utmost potential where the agreement is a coming together of individuals understanding what it means to stand as equals and to stand as one

15.    Sex as Self Expression – where sex is an united expression between individuals in honour, respect, consideration and regard of each other as equals, two physical bodies uniting in equality and oneness – a merging of two equals as one physically.

16.    Realising that by the virtue of me being in this world – my responsibility does not only extend to my own Mind / my own Life, but to the minds and lives of everything and everyone of this earth and so my commitment is to extend this awareness to all of humanity to work together and live together to make this world heaven on earth for ourselves and the generations to come

17.    I must in my thoughts, words and deeds – but most importantly in my living actions, become a living example for others in my world that is noticeable and visible when it comes to the potential of a person to change themselves and so change their world. So that more people can realise how we can change this world, by standing united in our self change within the principle of what is best for all to bring heaven to earth

18.    I am the change I want to see in me and my world – to bring heaven to earth is to bring into being, into living the LIVING PROOF of a PRACTICAL HEAVEN that can be seen and heard in our actions and words. We are the Living Heaven that must come into creation in this living world.

19.    Through purifying my thoughts, words and deeds – my inner becomes my outer, so I bring into creation me as heaven into earth, realising it is not enough to ‘see the change / be the change’ – for change to become REAL it must be a constant, consistent living of me through the words I speak and the actions I live visible and noticeable to all in every moment of breath

20.    Realising that my physical body is my temple – my physical body is the living flesh through which and in which I will bring into being and create / manifest heaven on earth as me in my thoughts, words and deeds and so I honour, respect and regard – nurture and support my physical body as I would nurture and support me as equals: my body is me

21.    We are the change in ourselves and this world we have been waiting for: and so I commit to dedicate myself and my life for each one as all to realise this, as nothing will change if we don’t change in all that we are, within and without

22.    The realisation that for me to be able to change myself in thought, word and deed to the most effective living being that I can be and become – I first have to ‘know thyself’ and so commit myself to investigate, introspect and understand how I became who I am today, to prepare the road before me into self creation of a responsible, aware, self honest and trustworthy person for myself and so for all

23.    The realisation that for me to be able to contribute to change in this world – I have to get to ‘know thyself’ as this world and so commit myself to research, investigate and introspect the inner and outer workings of this world and align the systems of today to present and give the best possible life for all on Earth

Day 78 - The spiritual distraction sold by Tolle (and others)

I will continue my german series on Characters in my next blog!

by Matti Destonian Freeman

On:

Eckhardt Tolle - Nirvana is already here

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPNjDo_tkRg

I watched this video of Eckhart Tolle lately, and I am not surprised about the way he turns things back to cnsciousness as the source. This can easily be done, especially when you are dealing with uncertain people, defining themselves through an uncertain and unsure mind. I was a reader of Tolle's texts and books myself for a short period of time and I know how seductive this notion of feeling comfortable with yourself as the observing awareness is. At least from the perspective of a quite priviledged member of humaninty where you actually have the space and time to worry about whether you are awareness that is aware of itself or if you are the feelings, emotions, the body or whatever it is aware of. And I felt that way for some time, whenever I felt troubled or worried about anything I told myself that I am just the awareness, not that what I am aware of. I can identify with it, but I am not what I identify with. So far so good, but what next? Does this actually touch the cause of the 'problem'? Does this change anything? And by the way, what does it help to tell someone who is on a path of self fulfillment which is obviously a path of self interest, looking for a comfortable state of mind/feeling/emotion or even a comfortable state of awareness, that this awareness was all that is here or that this was already the state of 'Nirvana'?

Tolle doesn't even touch the core of the question with his answer but stated that the answer was lying within the question. The question was 'how can I get there? I have a longing for that state of being' and all the time he doesn't even know what state of being this would be. It is a deception of the mind, a trap that keeps you distracted from Life itself, from actually living and accepting your very practical and physical responsibility. It is a drugged state of energetically charged emotional mind pills, the longing as well as the given path. You will be drugged by words as Ideas that trigger your emotional body. And Tolle's answer is that this state was already here, but that it was overlooked. By what? By the same awareness that in his sense IS Nirvana itself? Why should it then overlook itself? In order to keep me looking so that I can buy more books that tell me what I already have but just don't know how to see? This is all just a play with words triggering different emotions and feelings within those that are listening willing to adapt and be manipulated or lured into another trap of the mind.

Awareness is Life, it is within Life as your body. Your body is the main cause of your awareness, meaning your consciousness interpretation programm, which is entertaining itself through compiling the awareness input into a mind movie or video game that comforts the individualized perception of yourself as a seperate being. But all the time you are Life, the physical Life, not seperate but in constant interchange with all other physical Life. But within your state of mind, deluding yourself into an alternate reality as your personality perception by consciousness, into a higher state of being, seperate from Life as if you were just an alien, an observer, you don't want things to be that simple.You don't want to be equal, to have the same rights, limitations and necessities as all other life. You have got to be special. At least you have got to be something else than that what you really are, as the human body, equal to all Life, responsible for yourself and your perception, your interpretation of your own feelings, the personality that you allowed yourself to become and for the consequences of your interaction with the world. You'd rather imagine yourself to be energy that one day will be set free from the burdon of Life and join the universal cloud of energy, becoming all powerful and - of course - immortal, while all the time it will be YOU as the perceptor, as your personal awareness... Fascinating thing this consciousness, isn't it. Comes up with great Ideas. But what purpose does it have? Could it be possible that this consciousness, awareness or whatever you may call it can be used as a tool by Life itself in order to sort things out in a practical way? Could it be that the only real decision we can make as this or within this awareness is to accept our responsibility as life and use our abilities in order to provide a solid and profound basis of equality for all Life here in this existance? Does this really sound so absurd? Is this really so ridiculous facing all the ignorant and self destructive behaviour of mankind all around the world in the name of mystified thoughts, mental concepts and beliefs which are just ideologies that have never really been lived? Does it really serve Life in any way if we only calm ourselves down in our minds, ignore all possible practical solutions we could come up with if we committed ourselves to our responsibility, and instead focus on being the mind, being consciousness, being awareness?

It is just a belief and Life itself shows very clearly that the physical, actual reality is not a belief, but that those principles of life are substancially real and equally important for all Life. When your body melts down to the earth, your awareness is gone. It will vanish and die while Life continues, you can't question that. We have solid physical proof. A 'dead' human body becomes quite vital and turbulent when the 'awareness' as a human 'personality' is gone. It does not vanish, it does not ascend and it does certainly not care about it's awareness. It is, moves, transforms and spreads as Life. This is what we can learn from Death, and that is why death is so important, equally important as Life, if not the very same.

Another Blog and perspective on the questionable views of E. Tolle:

The elite Bliss - Tolle's guide to ignorance

http://desteni.org

http://equalmoney.org

http://destonians.com